Sex And Fasting
Pastor Chinaemerem Ibezim
January 9, 2018
After the post on What To Do When Fasting, and the questions asked, it’s necessary to explain why even married couples should avoid sex during the period of fasting. This is not a law, but my job as a teacher is to help you understand spiritual truths and achieve better results.
First, what’s fasting about?
1) Fasting is a spiritual exercise, that affects both the spirit and the flesh.
2) Fasting is a time of separation unto God.
3) Fasting is a time to seek God.
4) Fasting is a time of sanctification.
5) Fasting is a time to subdue the flesh and walk in the Spirit.
6) Fasting is a time of sacrifice and self deprivation.
7) Fasting is obviously a time for serious business.
When we see something in both the Old and New Testaments it’s enough to get our attention.
These verses below talk about sex and sanctification (fasting):
1) “Then the Lord said to Moses, “Go to the people and consecrate them today and tomorrow, and let them wash their clothes. And let them be ready for the third day. For on the third day the Lord will come down upon Mount Sinai in the sight of all the people. So Moses went down from the mountain to the people and sanctified the people, and they washed their clothes. And he said to the people, “Be ready for the third day; do not come near your wives.”
Exodus 19:10-11, 14-15
2) “And the priest answered David and said, “There is no common bread on hand; but there is holy bread, if the young men have at least kept themselves from women.” Then David answered the priest, and said to him, “Truly, women have been kept from us about three days since I came out. And the vessels of the young men are holy, and the bread is in effect common, even though it was consecrated in the vessel this day.”
I Samuel 21:4-5
3) “Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”
I Corinthians 7:5
4) “For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor,”
I Thessalonians 4:3-4
In 1 Samuel 21:4-5, it talks about the vessels of the men being holy. And 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4 relates sex with sanctification. It says that our vessels should be holy.
When a couple has sex it’s certainly not unholy, but for the purpose of fasting it is good for them to make that sacrifice in order to have a fruitful fast. Sex pleases the flesh, and fasting attempts to subdue the flesh. If we can deprive the flesh of food, we should be willing to deprive the flesh of sex which gives it more pleasure (just for a while).
Like I said, fasting is serious business. It’s not everything we have to fast forfor, but when we have to fast we must take it seriously. When David wanted Uriah to sleep with his wife in the time of war, Uriah said, “The ark and Israel and Judah are dwelling in tents, and my Lord Joab and the servants of my Lord are encamped in the open fields. Shall I then go to my house to eat and drink, and to lie with my wife? As you live, and as your soul lives, I will not do this thing.” II Samuel 11:11. That’s the type of attitude we need while fasting.
Not having sex with your spouse during fasting will not kill you!
Chinaemerem Ibezim is the pastor of Able Ministers Chapel in Calabar.